At media training sessions and roundtable discussions, one of the most valuable aspects is the freedom participants feel to exchange ideas openly. These conversations spark fresh thinking and help people see issues from new perspectives.

Often, that sense of safety comes from operating under the Chatham House Rule. It’s meant to create space for honest dialogue — but as many professionals have discovered, it’s also one of the most misunderstood concepts in modern business communication.

One Rule, Not “Rules”

People frequently refer to “Chatham House Rules,” as though there’s a whole set of them. In fact, there’s only one — and it’s surprisingly short. Here’s what Chatham House itself says:

When a meeting, or part thereof, is held under the Chatham House Rule, participants are free to use the information received, but neither the identity nor the affiliation of the speaker(s), nor that of any other participant, may be revealed.

That’s it. One sentence.

This means anyone who attends such a meeting is entirely free to share what was said — provided they don’t identify who said it. In journalistic terms, that’s easy enough to navigate: a quick “sources close to the company said…” and the Chatham House Rule is technically upheld.

Where It Goes Wrong

The problem is that many professionals assume the phrase means total confidentiality — that nothing said under the Rule can leave the room. It’s a common misunderstanding, even at senior levels. One senior banker once argued fiercely online that the Rule guaranteed complete secrecy and that any breach would have consequences.

That’s simply not what the Rule says. It was never designed as a confidentiality agreement, and it’s not legally binding. It’s an understanding — and one that depends on everyone in the room knowing what they’ve actually agreed to.

Off the Record? Be Careful There Too

Chatham House itself advises that if something truly must remain private, it should be kept “off the record.” Even that, however, can be risky. Journalists and other media professionals sometimes interpret “off the record” differently — often as “unattributable” rather than “secret.”

The Case for Simplicity

So what’s the safest approach? Simplicity. If you genuinely need something to remain confidential, say so — directly and clearly. “Confidential” is unambiguous. Everyone knows what it means.

By contrast, saying “Chatham House Rules” (plural) can signal uncertainty. It’s often used to sound authoritative or sophisticated, but it can actually blur the boundaries of what’s permitted. When it comes to professional communication, clarity beats elegance every time.

The Takeaway

In media interactions, roundtables, or any kind of professional exchange, precision in language matters. It protects reputations, ensures trust, and avoids misunderstanding.

So next time you’re setting the ground rules for a sensitive discussion, skip the fancy phrasing. Just say “confidential” — and mean it.

And you can tell anyone you like that this came from Clapperton Media Training.

Our lead trainer Guy was the event MC for a conference in Manchester once. It was going well until the last speaker arrived. He was high-profile and an asset to the conference, don’t get us wrong. It’s just that he had what might be called a “bit of an attitude”.

He started by giving Guy the exact wording with which he wanted to be introduced. This is actually good practice. It led into a bit of a film about what the man did and it led to a big round of applause when he entered. He then sailed in with “Well, Guy, I’ve had some great introductions – and that wasn’t one of them.” Of course everybody laughed. The event MC is always fair game and Guy didn’t mind being set up.

Six minutes before the speaker was supposed to finish, Guy gave a signal. This was intended helpfully. Unfortunately this was the point at which the speaker decided war had been declared.

The event MC needs to understand timing

“Hey everybody,” the speaker said. “Guy’s trying to shut me up – Guy, are you fed up with me?” Guy was too professional to confess that yes, within the last few seconds that would pretty much have summed up his view. Frankly it didn’t matter whether the speaker was any good or not at that stage. What mattered was:

  • Overrunning might have incurred extra costs from cleaning staff, AV staff, janitorial staff
  • Delegates had travelled from quite some way and might have trains or indeed planes to catch
  • …or they might have made plans to discuss business over dinner or just unwind with colleagues after the conference and those arrangements needed to be respected
  • Actually they might have decided they were going home to their living rooms where they were going to recite the National Anthem backwards or whatever they wanted to do – it was their time and nothing to do with Guy or the speaker.

There was nothing to be done about the cleaning staff or AV staff – Guy simply announced that if delegates needed to get to the station or the airport they should feel free to do so without offending the organisers and speakers. This seemed a fair compromise and after the organisers had been thanked, about 25% of the audience got up and left and the speaker continued.

The point is that if you’re a speaker it’s incumbent upon you to respect the schedule that’s been set. It might not seem important to you if you overrun by 15 or 20 minutes as long as the audience seems happy but they might not stay happy for long.

Here’s a two-minute video about what happened once when Guy was speaking and the inexperienced MC went rogue – and lunch was ready.